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Sad. Mad. Glad.
Those were my emotional flash card options when I first started therapy. I would tell stories about growing up and my therapist would ask me how I felt. I’d start, “Well I think. . .” That’s when she started with the cards.
No matter what I think about the causes of the horrible cluster of recent gay suicides – about LGBT bullying, cyberspace, privacy, gay youth, Rev. Eddie Long, schools, the Catholic Church, anti-Social Networks – I feel sad for the families who have lost their sons and daughters, mad that bullying is still so prevalent and glad that everyone is talking about it.
I have been struck by the conversations I have had with my family and straight friends, who tell me how disturbing it is, how they worry about their children and grandchildren and wonder what can be done. I hang up the phone and look at it and think, “What do you think I’ve been talking about all these years?”
What they think is that the battle is won. They look at me and my dear partner and think, “You’re out. You’re comfortable. You’ve got a life.”
These suicides provide another flashpoint in our movement for full moral equality. This October 11, on yet another National Coming Out Day, I intend to come out to my family again and remind them that our battle is not over and that we need their help. Perhaps I’ll finally tell them my own stories of being bullied.
3 X 3 KY CO CA
Three cities in three days! You guessed it I couldn’t use my bike.
Gay Pride week at the University of Louisville this year highlighted the L of LGBTQQ and they asked this old L to be there. Their strong LGBT group organized a fabulous flash mob in the student cafeteria complete with rainbow streamers and queer-eography, a queer women’s health discussion, my presentation, a drag show and rally. It was completely inspiring. From the state that brings us Mitch McConnell and Rand Paul – fabulous young LGBT organizers and allies! Watch out!
It looked like Old Homo Week at the Boulder Theater. Nona Gandleman back in action in Boulder as head of Maven Productions brought me to CO with the newly rebranded OUT BOULDER. Their re-energized board has lots of ideas to extend their gang’s progressive reach into Boulder County and beyond. I hydrated properly, went to an OUT BOULDER reception after the show. We all danced to Lady Gaga!
The show at the Marines Memorial Theater in SF also brought out old friends and new faces. The theater is a jewel from 1926 in a building that used to be home to WACS and WAVES from WWII. I swear there were girl ghosts back stage. And I have no idea how it came to pass that that woman from West Virginia ended up wearing my sequined bra but that’s how things go sometimes. I got it back.
Off to AARP in Orlando!
3 X 3 KY CO CA
Three cities in three days! You guessed it I couldn’t use my bike.
Gay Pride week at the University of Louisville this year highlighted the L of LGBTQQ and they asked this old L to be there. Their strong LGBT group organized a fabulous flash mob in the student cafeteria complete with rainbow streamers and queer-eography, a queer women’s health discussion, my presentation, a drag show and rally. It was completely inspiring. From the state that brings us Mitch McConnell and Rand Paul – fabulous young LGBT organizers and allies! Watch out!
It looked like Old Homo Week at the Boulder Theater. Nona Gandleman back in action in Boulder as head of Maven Productions brought me to CO with the newly rebranded OUT BOULDER. Their re-energized board has lots of ideas to extend their gang’s progressive reach into Boulder County and beyond. I hydrated properly, went to an OUT BOULDER reception after the show. We all danced to Lady Gaga!
The show at the Marines Memorial Theater in SF also brought out old friends and new faces. The theater is a jewel from 1926 in a building that used to be home to WACS and WAVES from WWII. I swear there were girl ghosts back stage. And I have no idea how it came to pass that that woman from West Virginia ended up wearing my sequined bra but that’s how things go sometimes. I got it back.
Off to AARP in Orlando!