We always enjoy Kate when she comes to town. But we are a bit out of the
loop these days with health issues and working to regain strength. Is
Kate still a MA resident and has she married yet? We’ve never heard
whether she has “walked the walk” as it were. And if not, why?
Sari & Kate
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Sari and Kate,
Your names sound like my Indian girlfriend and me! We have been together twenty years
and are not residents of MA. We have domestic partnership in New York State.
We have not married, still live in sin and though we absolutely support the right
to marry, have not walked that walk. Why? Simply put, we don’t want to. Yet. Perhaps
when there is full federal recgnition of marriage equality we will do it. We will be sure to let
you know where we our bridal registry is!!
Best,
Kate

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I first saw you on “Two and Twenty” in 1985. I loved the
tongue-and-cheek advertisement. What prompted you to do this gig? I was
disappointed that the community access station in Somerville only
produced 6 episodes. It was cheesy but it was fun TV and somehow
representative of the lesbian community. Now we have The L Word with
lesbian characters I’ve never had the pleasure to meet. Did you ever get
to view any of the 2 in 20 episodes?
Missy Buck
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Moi? Something fromagy? Mais non!
Dig those episodes out of the vault!!
We’ll add it to our justly famous “History of Hair” reel.
I remember more doing “The World According to Us” for WGBH.
Given the darling sexism of this election, we should bring that show back.
Thanks for the reminder and for paying attention all these years.
Best,
Kate

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We were dissappointed to see that you aren’t bringing your live show to
Portland, OR. My partner and I both enjoy your humor and would love to
see you in Portland or Seattle. I have a political question for you. My
partner and I are split on this election. I support Hillary and she
supports Obama. What are the concrete reasons you support her over Obama?
We don’t argue over this so its not an issue. We are united in the joy
of Bush/Cheney leaving the carnage that is now the white house.
Susan Glenn
Patty Zurflieh
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Dear Susan,
It is quite a pleasure to have two exciting candidates to chose from isn’t it? The concrete reasons? I want a woman president. Simple enough. Actually I want a lesbian who doesn’t give a shit what men think. That will be a few more years, apparently.
Like you I want the current junta out.
My audacious hope is that whoever the Democratic candidate, that she or he will be able to unite the party and defeat the Republican nutjob candidate and take back Congress.
Otherwise I’m off to Brazil.
Viva Lula!!
Best,
Kate

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Hi, Kate.
Ok. So, this isn’t as important as world peace
or freedom of oppression for women but here goes.
I find dating to be a real drag. I think the date
is going really well and then…(dramatic pause)….
There she is. Ms. Ex. I find myself working as a counselor
before the night is out. I don’t want to become bitter and jaded
(although under the current administration it can be difficult…),
but there’s nothing that puts out the sparks like a martini with a
therapy chaser. Suggestions? Encouragement? Co-dependent
support? Thanks! Amy
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Amy,
Not to worry, if dating is mastered [or of course mistressed] I believe
there will be world peace, freedom and an end to the oppression of
women. No wonder you feel the pressure.
Can you pre-select, to avoid costly dates? Like a questionnaire –
Where do you stand on the death penalty? Are you for Hillary Clinton?
How long has it been since you were with your ex? Do you love Napoleon
Dynamite?
I admire ANYONE who is doing the dating. I’ve been in long
relationships m whole lesbian career. Of course they’ve been wonderful
hostages, I mean women but there was a tinge of dating avoidance. I
will not lie.
We’ll have a brand new woman president next year at this time. So
don’t lose faith.
Best,
Kate

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So I just signed up for your newsletter hoping it would get me a few
extra points toward getting my burning question answered. Although it
may be too inflammatory.
I’m wondering if you ever miss those maybe-not-so-bad-old-days when we
lesbians weren’t quite so darn assimilated. You know, the whisper in
the office lunchroom times. The good old neighborly spinsters next
door instead of the block captain lesbian couple with kids that
everyone holds up as their “some of my best friends are…” shining
example.
I mean, the last time I attended one of your concerts there were
*gasp* a whole bunch of straight people there. And they took the best
seats.
So, what do you think? Any longing for the wink-wink-nudge-nudge days??
Missing the in-group just a little bit,
Nancy
Nancy Quay, LMSW
Ann Arbor Therapy Services, LLC
www.annarbortherapist.com
734-717-0747
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Dear Nancy,
Glad you signed up. Quite frankly our “Ann Arbor Therapist”
demographic was dismally low.
I love your question. I had a little frisson of those special friend
days just reading it. I’m a recovering catholic and so the more
forbidden the hotter and dirtier.
Perhaps you could start one of those Second Life internet personnas
that the kids are doing and try to recapture those days. But then
again, technology is such a turn off.
Or a pot luck. I believe in the lesbian pot luck as a reminder of
those old days. Draw the blinds. Put on the some Cris and Meg and
Holly. Dredge up some softball gossip.
Mostly though I find, and I’m sure you do too, [eek was that
co-dependent?] our visibility gob-smackingly exhilarating.
Next time, I’ll reserve you seats in the front row!!
Best,
Kate

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Kate,
I know that there is a slight age difference in your age and your
girlfriends.? I am 42 and my partner is 19 years older.? In your
experience, what has been the best and the worst part of your age
difference?? What has been the affect on the relationship?? Inquiring
minds want to know.?
Warm regards,
Alicia
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Alicia,
We have a twelve year difference – I’m older. Mind you, if Urvashi
were twelve years older than me, she’d still have more energy. She
keeps me on my toes. I guess the worst part is that there is a
statistically good chance that I’ll be shuffling off my mortal coil
before her. I’ll miss her. So it’s just better to think that today is
the only day. And today, despite her amazing brilliance, she has no
clue how to make a good looking gay bed.
Best,
Kate

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Dear Kate,
Executive Orders, those from our dear el presidente Bush, can be just so
annoying, have you noticed?? There are two which are just too irksome, one
in which he threatens to take all your stuff if you protest his war in
Iraq and the other where he threatens to take all your stuff and your
spouses stuff and your child’s stuff it you get in the way of what he has
going on in Lebanon.? What does he want with my daughter’s stuff anyway??
Honestly, I used to like Executive Orders prior to this, at least I have
many fond memories but if he keeps this up, my pencant for executive
orders may just go away and as a lazy top, where would you be if all those
lesbians at there find that executive orders just are not to their taste
anymore due to el presidente’s overuse of them.? Are you concerned Ms.
Clinton?? I havent left for? Canada yet, I am waiting to lose at least?two
more civil rights before I head out.
Getting over the Executive,
Kathy
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Kathy,
I just tried some of my French on a guy who asked a question from
Quebec, so soon I won’t be able to go there either.
I think your presidente is going to announce one late Friday that he’s
given himself a full pre-emptive pardon.
I don’t know why he wants all our stuff. Maybe he’s planning to
re-gift for Jenna’s wedding.
Best,
Kate

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Hi Kate Clinton
The question I have for you is:
On the occasion that: male competence(domain of expertise)is different
from female competence;
Is the lesbianism, female spirituality or homosexuality?
Thanks!
Robert R. Korolik
Quebec QC
Canada
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Monsieur Robert!
Votre question est tres difficile to repondez to.
Je shoud sittez a la tabla de jeunes filles.
Je ne sais pas.
How do you say – Live and Let Live?
Tout Les Competences!
Liberte, Egalite, Soro/frater-nite!
Merci,
Kate

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Greetings, Kate:
I am a sociologist, and an attorney, and a woman without a clue when
it comes to matters of the heart. As a former teacher, you will be
pleased to know I have done my homework to resolve this question before raising my
hand, but the results of my research are inconclusive. I remain baffled. So,
I ask you, my favorite philosopher and ultimate arbiter of dykorum, what is
the appropriate event to commemorate as an anniversary?
My data suggests that some start the clock ticking the moment they
meet, their first date(my girlfriend is in this camp) or their first kiss.
Some record the date of their first naked tumble in their palm pilot with
other annual obligations like pap smears and mammograms. (yours truly would
be found in this category). Some choose the day they moved in together, a few even
memorialize the date upon which they simultaneously used the bathroom,
which, according to my survey, in case you’re interested, takes the average
lesbian couple 7.357 months. That’s all fine and dandy……….when the
parties to the contract agree on mutual terms. (My girlfriend and I would not be
included in this category.) Hence, the dilemma. Hence, the question, “whence do
we commence?”
It’s now September. Despite heroic avoidant tactics and ingenious
distractions, the moment has arrived and “it” can no longer be
ignored.
As predictably as the falling of the leaves, this topic has floated to the
surface of my relationship like a turd in the punchbowl. Root, hog or die, my move
must be made, whether it be sending roses or orchestrating a romantic
serenade by a singing gorilla. My recollections compel me to execute this ritual
“around” the end of the month, but she insists upon a specific date.
I am comfortable with ambiguity, but my partner is exacting and precise; you
know the type, she uses ink on a first draft. She likes direct answers, and I carry a
recessive vagueness gene. She’s pure; apparently I’m prurient. She
believes in rules, I’m professionally trained to work around them. As evidenced
by this pitiful, rambling plea for clarity, I am desperate for enlightenment:
1) why do we have to have an anniversary to begin with, 2) what exactly are we
celebrating, and 3) how is the date arrived upon when the parties are
in different stages of memory loss? These questions beg your wisdom, if not for
me, but for all those women like me who suffer this unspeakable torment year
in and year out. I’m counting on you, Kate. You’re the best.
Warmest personal regards and adoration,
Sharon Bante
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Dear Betty,
I trust we are not paying you by the billable hour, but appreciate your
laying out the many sides of the argument.
Which I will ignore. Ain’t I a caution?
The lovely thing about our lezzie faire relationships, especially
unmarred by the unmarried, is we get to decide. That’s what I call
lesbian liberation. Luckily, but who knew then?, my partner and I
celebrate both our meeting and a four hour later roll roll in the hey
hay as our anniversary. It was quite the conference. We have agreed
on the date and then both promptly forget it.
We do honor the day we moved in together as “The Touching of the
T-Shirts” Day.
So go ahead, give her a present whenever you feel like it. The whole
world hates a happy woman, and when two of us get together it’s a
miracle to be celebrated every day. Keep the sparkling cider on ice.
I drink a toast to you and yours!
Best,
Kate

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Good Evening,
I was just reading Hillary Clinton’s recent web letter inviting anyone to
register for dinner at her home in Washington. Of course, the goal is to
generate buzz for more donations. I then found a way to register for the
‘drawing’ of her dinner through the web site without making a donation. I
registered and then thought- who would I like to invite to this dinner with me aside
from my partner.
So the chances of landing the opportunity to dine with Mrs. Clinton is
slim however, if I did perchance get the opportunity, would you consider
joining my partner and I? You may also invite your partner as well? I thought after
listening to your many monologues, I think things would be quite
interesting if you and your partner were in the dinner party probing our future president
about various issues.
Of course the chances of being selected are slim – but if it happens,
please consider the idea?
Thanks Kate!
Cindy Jackson
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Dear CIndy –
I will so be there if you win –
I am planning my outfit right now and working on
my Madam President manners.
Go girl!
Best,
Kate

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