Would you like a quiet life of safety or a life of great adventure and uncertainty??
Kate wants to hear from you! The next question of the week, straight from Kate, is: Would you like a life of safety or a life of great adventure and uncertainty? To get your voice heard, simply hit the Comment link and tell her what you think! No registration is necessary, and you can post anonymously if you want.
November 13, 2012 @ 6:52 am
I think until I was 47 i took the life of safety in my personal life. I’m a business owner and that was a risk to start with.
Personally, on March 9, 2012, my wife and I entered into a civil union in a state where it allowed us to have legal terms to protect our life.
That day should be one of the happiest, yet in my heart it is one of the saddest.
I chose to call my brother, at my mother’s request to tell him about the civil union. He was rude, disrespectful and has since, I believe, joined “RightChange” and also “NOM” and if I understand correctly, NOM is a hate group.
He did not choose this before my civil union even though he knew we were together. He only chose it after.
So my safe personal live has turned into uncertainty moving forward. Will it be a life of great adventure? It will be what I make it to be and I will embrace this new journey with all my heart and soul. After being together for 10.5 years, you’d think my blood family would be ok with a legal way to protect our assets…then again…maybe he’s greedier than I thought.
November 17, 2012 @ 1:08 am
So sad to hear this all-too-familiar story. Forgive your brother, but don’t be sad for something over which you have no control -his mind & heart. Just because he violated the brother-sister bond doesn’t mean you have to return the favor.
We in the gay community have made a quiet compact to never meet hate with more hate. We do this so well sometimes, it amazes even me. We have every right to be hurt, upset, irritated, frustrated, enraged most days with the hate & violence meted out against us. We don’t expect it from our own family members & that in itself can be so….disrupting to our worlds. It can leave us unsettled in a way that nothing else can. It’s a betrayal.
Don’t return the favor. Be as kind, gentle, loving & sisterly to him as you can muster. Keep your power. Good luck to you & your partner!
November 13, 2012 @ 9:55 pm
Great adventure & uncertainty. Life is to be lived, not saved. What are we saving for? More days on this planet? Good luck with that. If we’re lucky, we live AND love & leave this life with lots of great stories to tell on the other side.
November 14, 2012 @ 4:47 am
How bout a life with someone to share it with… yea thats all Im interested in….. really….
November 16, 2012 @ 2:30 am
because everything in life is uncertain one might as well enjoy the adventures… better than boring!
November 17, 2012 @ 3:15 am
Your question is like the plot of Narcissus & Goldmund, a novel written by Hermann Hesse http://books.google.com/books/about/Narcissus_and_Goldmund.html?id=lNtdtl4lkhsC
I lived both lives – dangerous and safe. I had many adventures and I am glad I had some of those adventures and sorry I risked my life so many times. Now I am disabled and my adventurous life is over. I wish I could have some more adventures now – safer ones – but sometimes adventures find me.
Today I create my own online adventures here
http://www.facebook.com/groups/occupyequality a group I started to unite activists worldwide for LGBTI rights.
November 17, 2012 @ 3:29 am
Bring on the uncertainty!! No risk; no reward!!
November 17, 2012 @ 3:47 am
I’m almost 50 and have gone with adventure and uncertainty. But if social security goes down the crapper I am seriously fucked. No regrets though…I’ve had a great time!
November 17, 2012 @ 8:26 am
Living the latter, so would like the former please.